Start Being a “Tooter” Today!
Are you a “tooter”? If not, it’s time both you and I should be. But not in the way you might be thinking.
I was talking to my husband the other day, complaining (yet again) about how hard it is to juggle work and home—all the dishes, laundry, cleaning, cooking, grocery shopping, meal planning, teaching, training, disciplining, planning, budgeting, writing, editing, freelancing, blogging …
Whew, it just exhausted me to even write that.
Then my husband calmly asked: “Be happy about all the good things. There are a lot of good things you experience! But … how come when something good does happens—like when you land a new client or when the kids respond really well to something you’ve been trying to teach them—you are happy for a brief moment, and then you become consumed with everything again and anxious and stressed?”
“Well … ”
I don’t know.
Why can’t I celebrate my “victories”?
Why can’t I toot my own horn?
Because I feel I don’t deserve them? Because I’m trying to be humble? Because Satan is trying to rob me of my joy? Because I’m too overwhelmed that I can’t embrace the moment?
Any of the above? Likely, all of the above.
I’ve never been one to brag on myself, to toot my own horn, to be proud of my accomplishments, or to even congratulate myself on a job well done. Because it’s never good “enough.” There’s always something else to attain, to strive for, to accomplish. Whatever I should be celebrating becomes a miniscule accomplishment in light of what others are doing … in light of what more I have to do … in light of how others’ respond to what I’ve done.
Do you experience this? I’m guessing many women do; maybe men do, as well.
Sometimes the response of others gets in our heads; perhaps, it’s the voice of doubt; perhaps, it’s the voice of Satan.
You did it this time, but you’ll never do it again.
You think you reached the top? Ha! Just wait … you’ll fall down again.
Don’t be proud, because so-and-so is doing much better.
Well, aren’t you proud! I guess you didn’t read the section about being humble in the Bible!
We can never embrace the moment and say to ourselves: “Right now, I’m going to be happy. I worked for this, and I obtained it. I’m proud of myself.”
Let’s all be “tooters.” We need to toot our own horns once in a while.
So here’s my challenge to all of us who may struggle with patting our own back. Let’s start a “Tooter” chart. Let’s keep track of all the good things we do—which, in reality, are probably too many to list or remember. Start today and keep a list, a chart, a file, a document—whatever—that showcases our accomplishments, the good that we do, the blessings we have, and the compliments people have given us.
For example, I’m going to go back through my blog comments and through Facebook comments and write down all the positive things people have said. Not to be conceited, but to remember the good … to not let the bad get me down. When negative thoughts threaten to overcome me, I can open my file and say “Nope! I’m not worthless; I am doing good. I’ve helped people. I believe in myself, and I thank God for His blessings.”
When we don’t acknowledge our accomplishments, we aren’t acknowledging the God that allowed us to accomplish those things through His strength, wisdom, grace, and mercy. When someone tells us “Way to go!” and we reply with “Oh, it was nothing … no big deal” we are saying our God is nothing, that He’s not a big deal.
But guess what? God is something. He is a big deal! And He is using me and you to accomplish the things He wants done. So sure … Satan is going to try to stop that. Unfortunately, he knows how many of us struggle with negative thoughts, low self-esteem, and issues of doubt and despair. So if he can get you to say, “Oh it wasn’t that great” instead of “Look what God is doing through me” then he’s winning a little bit more of the battle. God gets less glory.
Stop allowing negative thoughts to win and begin to give God the glory! Start a “Tooter” file, or even call it “Give God the Glory” or “My Blessings” file. Make lists of the good, the great, and the awesome things you are accomplishing!
I’ll begin. The first few things on my list are compliments from other people:
- Your writing is great. I can relate and I laugh. Thanks for being you.
- Wonderful words—keep allowing God to use you to bless the rest of us!
- Much needed post! Thank you!
Now go start your own tooter list! And share with us the wonderful things on your list! Become a “tooter” today!
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